Start by talking with your partner about what you would like to try. Apply water-based lubricant to the internal end, then insert it slowly until it feels comfortably held. Put on the support brief for extra stability, apply lubricant to the outer end and to your partner, and begin with slow movements. Give the remote to your partner if you enjoy surprises, which is the whole charm of a remote control strap on, or keep it to set the pace yourself. For a classic set-up, see our strap-on dildo with harness; for other shared moments, you may also like our couples vibrator.